Groundhog's Date

In my last post, I aligned my dating life to the movie groundhogs day. I thought i would elaborate on that theory...

In a fit of boredom (and lonliness) I have put up a few profiles on personals sites. I just dont get out enough (lack of female friends...and its not too safe for me to be clubbing solo). So until this fall, when i re-enter academia, personals sites just make sense. anyhow, the groundhog's day metaphor comes in here.

when i meet someone online, we go through the same steps. its like the same thing over and over again...just with different men. First we share a few IMs, then a few phone calls, and eventually we set up to meet for happy hour. We drink a beer, I smile, he charms, we laugh. i ask the same questions of him that i ask on every date, i respond to his questions with the same answers i give out on every date. I tell the same jokes, and the same stories, he laughs at the same point in the story that every other man laughs at. I'm sure the first time i told the story it was funny, but after telling the same damn story twenty times, i feel like a dating machine. As the night goes on, he gets extra flirty. he might grab my hand or put his arm around me and i act like its so special. i'm sure once upon a time it really did feel special, now it just feels like every other date. he gets that cute, i'm so into you giggle so i imitate it, clearly mine is fake. i think the staff at the few bars i frequent wonder about me. and why i always show up with a different man and act as though i'm on the same date. i have a few "signature" first-date outfits so it must seem strange. in the same outfit, at the same bar, and the same table, drinking the same drink, eating the same food - just a different man. at the end of the date, he walks me to my car and says goodnight with an innocent kiss. the next day he calls, and i dont answer. i just didnt feel the connection. so then i do it all again...with a different man, of course.

its pathetic - i can predict each moment of the date like i'm watching a rerun of the cosby show. i'm patiently awaiting the man that will sweep me off my feet, and yank me out of this groundhog day pattern...because i dont think i can take much more.

Lonley...

Its saturday night and i ain't got nobody...

i know that line makes it sound like i am desperate for a boyfriend, but its truly so much more than that. i'm at a point in life where i feel like i dont have anyone to hang out with. all my girlfriends in this state are married, or living with their significant others. they are great friends, but arent available to hang out as much as i would like. with them it seems like everything has to be planned, so they can get the "ok" from the mister. but nights like tonite, i just want to call a girlfriend up and say "come sit on the couch and watch a chick flick with me - i'll buy some ice cream." No such luck. my only single friend informed me a few weeks ago that she is dating a woman. she spends all her time with the new girlfriend. (i am still weirded out by this...two months ago we were checking out men together...)

so i have no girlfriends to call on when i get lonely on a saturday night. they invite me over to hang out in the land of the married couple, but that just doesnt sound like fun. i do it every now and then, but in a way its more depressing than being home alone - makes me want a husband of my own...but i really dont...

so then when i spend this lonely time without girlfriends, it makes me wish i had a man. just someone to lay on the couch with, share massages with, tell funny stories to, cuddle with, wake up to. in the past i've been a relationship person. from the beginning of 1998 until the end of 2004 i was in relationships back to back. since then my dating life has been rather non-committal. just a few dates here and there, but nothing constant. its kinda depressing...i hate the dating game, i just want to meet my mister right instead of casually dating around. it gets rather boring...dating for me has been like groundhogs day. same date over and over again. i just want to meet a man and click...i want to look forward to his phone calls. i am tired of dating. i am tired of getting all dolled up to go meet a new man for drinks, only to learn that i am just not that into him or vice versa.

i'm tired of lonely nights on the couch, i'm tired of not having friends that want to go out, i'm tired of going on lots of dates, i'm tired of being lonely...

this made me smile...

In the DETROIT NEWS, Bob Wojnowski writes that "the Pistons have only two formidable foes in the Eastern Conference. One is boredom. The other is Miami. When the latter shows up, the former disappears.

anonymous wizards letter...

So after the awful pistons weekend, i returned to school today to find an anonymous typed letter sitting on my desk. it was so amusing to me that i thought i would share it with the rest of the blogger world. i figured out who did it, but its still more fun to call it anonymous...

all of the grammar and spelling mistakes have been left in place...it adds to the humor and authenticity of the letter...

"To Whom It May Concern:
On behalf of the Washington Wizards I would like to apologize; for your lack of enjoyment at our game on Saturday, March 11, 2006. We would have been more than glad to refund your ticket money; since you did leave with mixed emotions of wanting to cry and asking why you couldn't be born a Wizards fan. Our organization learned that you were warned about the Detroit Pistons not being able to beat the Washington Wizards but you didn't listen to the person who is 90% of the time correct. For that reason we are unable to refund the ticket money. But, from the bottom of our hearts we really do wish that your older sister was able to comfort you, during your moment of pain from the loss. If you would like we would gladly send you an authentic jersey of any current Wizard player you choose. Two players I thank you should consider are Caron Butler because he did score 37% of the teams points. Or maybe you would like an Antonio Daniels jersey because he sparked the team to victory from his momentum booster of a dunk or the wide open three-pointer he made on the next position. But, any player would be a wise choice. If you would like your refund jersey please contact us at http://www.WashingtonWizard.com.

Sincerely,
The unofficial speaker For the Washington Wizards"

So when i asked the student about caron butler's 37%, he matter-of-factly retorted - "Ms. K, it wasnt a mistake, i actually did the math!" i love this kid...

My team didn't show up...

so there was a lot of build-up for this weekend. and alot invested into it. the tickets, the airfare, the jerseys, the new boots, the alcohol, the food, the gas...all for a game. we painted our faces, made a sign, and went to the game. we ran into some chaos with the parking situation, and got to the game a bit late. missed the start of the first quarter cuz we were standing in the beer line.

the game started off just ok...and as time went on it just kept getting worse. the wizards were stomping all over my boys. the pistons were not playing with the same heart and determination that has made me love being a fan. i felt so dissappointed. then they stuck the dagger in my heart - with 6 minutes to go in the fourth, they gave up. took all the starters out of the game and let the bench play...

what a bummer. i'm glad i was there with my sister because i really dont think i could have handled the dissappointment with anyone else. the local radio station said the pistons were going to be at a nightclub after the game. so eventually we went by there to see. my sister is in radio, and knows that stations will often do that just to psyche people out and often the mentioned celebrity isnt even there.

honestly, we didnt go in (too long of a line and too high of a cover). but we did hang out on the strip where the club is and people watched. we talked to passer-bys and noone saw the pistons there. good thing too...probably would have upset me if they were out partying after such a horrific loss...especially since they had a game the next afternoon.

we drove around the city for hours after the game. i had to have her at the airport for a 6:30 am flight so there was no point in coming home. despite the disappointing loss, it was really nice and therapuetic to spend some quality time with my sister. long long overdue...

Update...

i got the tickets for the pistons game on ebay!! thats right...we will be 8 rows behind the pistons bench!! i'm super duper excited!! woo hoo!!

Deeeetroit Basketbaaaall!!

Current Mood: Ecstatic.

Me and my kinda big sister (she and i dont share the same parents, but our dads are identical twins - meaning their DNA is the same, making us half sisters genetically speaking...AND to further complicate things, our dads married first cousins - sounds incest but it isnt - so her mom and mine are first cousins making us more than just half sisters...) sat on the phone this morning for hours. we had planned months ago that she would come to visit me this coming weekend so that we could go see the pistons take on the wizards in DC. but we both got very busy with work and that plan kinda moved to the backburner. then all of a sudden the game was only a week away...and plane tickets are pricey. especially since she has to work on friday and on sunday...so we were limited by time too. well after about an hour of searching we found a ticket. it gets her here friday nite, and leaves at 6:30 am sunday morning out of reagan.

unfortunately i live north of baltimore...and after the game there will be no point in driving back here just to go back to dc in a few hours. so next saturday nite, we will be revisiting our college days and pulling an all nighter...should be interesting.

but it will be so worth it. she and i are both HUGE pistons fan, we never miss games. i dont think me and her have been to more than two games together in our lives. (and i distictly remember one of those being during the bad boys era). this will be the first game we attend together without parental supervision (lol). and to make it even better, we are going to be the crazy pistons fans in a sea of wizards fans. we are going to go all out...faces painted and all. it is our mission to piss off wizards fans and to go home with a "W".

now if i get just get this pair of tickets that i am bidding on off of ebay. 8 rows behind the pistons bench! that itself is enough to make me lose my mind. the auctions ends at 3pm tomorrow...i'm praying we get these. it will be an expensive weekend (we are splitting the last minute airfare and the expensive ebay tickets) but it is going to be well worth it. if i get these tickets - this may be one of the best weekends of my life.